donderdag 10 januari 2013


It took me a while, but I finally figured out how an American girl should behave – with that, I mean, what kind of American girl I would like to be. That is, a Euro-American girl, with jewelry and rings, blush and things. I have watched a dozen of sitcoms, soaps and stuff about the American life, which made it all quite clear – there is a big difference in life and lifestyle, but it all gets pretty easy once you get to know the tricks. And then, life gets fun. 

The tricks are: smile. Smile, very often, enthusiastically and brave. Behave properly, polite, and say “thank you” very often. Be graceful. Be shy, but confident, be honest, or at least pretend you are. Never talk about negative things – Americans don’t believe in negativity. And if you do want to say something slightly non-positive, you should frame it. Frame it like: “I have a feeling that”, “This might not be going in the right direction” or “I might be not so sure about that”. Be convinced about your opinion, but always open for discussion. Americans love discussion – that is, they like to hear themselves talk about a bunch of things, especially themselves. Never show them you are bored. Never walk out on a party without saying goodbye. Goodbye’s matter, just as the many “hello’s” in the hallway. And it’s not just “hello” – it is “Hello, how do you do?” But don’t make the mistake I made at first: I told them how I was actually doing. That’s not the point – that’s not even an option. You just keep on walking, straight through, and tell them “Hey, I’m great, how do you do?” Then, most of the times, the conversation is over. And that’s a good thing, actually – you really don’t want to get involved in all the “how do you do’s” you get in one day. Also, remember: the best answer is “great”. What do you think about Nashville? “Oh, it’s great!” What do you think about the Nashville weather? “Oh, it’s wonderful!” How was your trip to Belgium? “Great!” That’s all there is – and that’s all there should be. And actually, I am starting to enjoy it. I have made my own image as a Euro-American girl, being most in particular sweet, intelligent, friendly and brave. And that’s all I need, for now, for me. Of course, it can get tiring, sometimes. But it’s worth the effort, and it’s definitely worth the warmth you receive from all those friendly faces in the hallway, at school, in class and in the city. So now I am going to walk, happy-go-lucky, to my next class, where I’ll be learning more about advanced intellectual property law, that is, for professionals, as they say. Great!

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