donderdag 9 januari 2014


“Between the ages of twenty and forty we are engaged in learning the difference between accidental limitations which it is our duty to outgrow and the necessary limitations of our nature” - W. H. Auden 

So I learned today that all adults are actually still children. Even my mum, and the partners of the law firm I work for. When we greet each other in the morning, over coffee or during meetings, we sound normal, happy, tired or (not) amused. When the phone rings or clients come in, we change. We change into these formal little monsters, lawyers alike, expressing our authority with attitude, documents, forms and files. It’s funny, isn’t it? While actually, we’re all little kids, waiting for the day to be over and playtime to begin. 

My meeting is delayed, which gives me time to write and rethink what happened this week. My boyfriend came home late tonight, really late, and he was vomiting in the bathroom when I met him in the morning. He’ll be 30 soon. I wonder whether that has something to do with it. 

One of my best friends is caught cheating on her boyfriend. It’s a pity. How the roadmaps of life we so carefully build, can be destroyed so easily. Still, nothing is irreversible. When it comes to love, there might always be an exception to the rule. Luckily, that is. 

I read an article of Gretchen Rubin, on happiness, New Year’s resolutions and “how to be happier at home”. Apart from the rather obvious things (kiss more, jump more, sing in the morning and read Samuel Johnson), she made this list with New Year’s resolutions for the whole year through. I might hang it on our fridge, to keep my boyfriend from vomiting in the morning (read: drinking too much), and to remind us all how simple it can be: living happily together, with friends and family, the ones we love the most. After all, if all adults stay kids, it shouldn’t be so hard, should it?

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